Well the countdown is on. My D-day is what I refer to as
my divorce final date. This particular
D-day and let us hope and pray this is the only one for this here lady, is set
for court for October 2nd 2012. This is just three days shy of what
would have been my five year anniversary.
Sad, yes. Lonely, yes. Heartbroken, yes. Sacred, I’d be
lying if I said yes. It’s really to death!!
This has been a complete learning experience and a
growing one for me. These were not my
plans when I set out 12 years ago and decided to live on my own and make a life
for myself. Anyone can tell you that has been through a divorce that it is a
painful process. Anyone that tells you
otherwise is lying to themselves and to you!
I never understood how people could simply just fall
apart and out of love with each other. To be honest, I still don’t understand
it. But therein lies the lesson for me. Not everything is meant to be
understood in this life. Not everything is as it seems with everything and
nothing and I mean nothing is guaranteed forever.
I know the hardest part of this, for me and I’m sure some
would agree is simply the task of letting it go. Letting go of the resentment
and anger and frustration that I couldn’t make something work out and that I
failed. I failed myself, my husband (soon ex), failed my daughter, failed my
family and failed my friends. But we
have to realize that failure is God’s way of saying too us, look this isn’t
right, this just can’t be. My plan for you did not entail this to happen
forever but to show you another way to be, to be a lesson and to show you to be
a better person.
My new Ink to help remind me to do this when needed!! |
Truth be told, do I understand this? Completely, no, I
still have my own demons and issues to work out and to discover who and what I
want to be. I can tell you I’ve learned
you do learn very quickly who your “real” friends are. You learn very quickly
the true meaning of love and what you need in your life to have that true love.
You learn too to build walls and set good boundaries and goals for
yourself. You learn, “Those who matter
don’t mind, and those who mind don’t matter” ~Dr. Suess
I hope to take away a great lesson and become a stronger
better person. Not that I consider myself a bad person, just a better version of
who I am and who I want to be. I hope to be an impeccable mother, as mine was,
and have my daughter as a best friend as my mother is mine. To learn to forgive but never forget those
scars that appear on my heart forever and always. Trust and love again, as I too deserve to be
happy and to be loved by someone who really just simply thinks the sun shines
right out of my ass!! J
I would like to extend anyone that is or maybe facing
divorce to discover the following information and possibly gain some help and
knowledge from them. They sure helped
me!!
Website - http://www.divorcecare.org/
Chicken Soup for the Soul:
Divorce and Recovery: 101 Stories about Surviving and Thriving after Divorce
Jack
Canfield, Mark
Victor Hansen , Patty
Hansen
When You Love a Man Who
Loves Himself
Letting Go of Anger: How
to Get Your Emotions Under Control
Forgiving the Unforgivable